Updated: Nov 15, 2019
Whether it's your bride tribe, groom gang, team groom, team bride, bride squad, or the I do crew, everyone has that one person or group of people they definitely want by their side on their special day. These are your hype-men/women who should be supportive the ENTIRE time.
So if you didn’t already know, weddings can be costly for the couple and anyone in the wedding party, and depending on the couple’s taste, it could be even more expensive. We always see the wedding party looking on point, glam, beautiful, and dapper but it’s easy to forget that a lot of prepping, spending and deliberations went into that. From the groomsmen’s tux, bridesmaids’ dresses, shoes, jewelry, MUA, stylist, kids' clothing and miscellaneous, someone has to pay for them, and it’s no joke.
As a bride/groom if you are looking to have a bridal party make sure you are considering people's financial capabilities and your relationship with them.
First, make sure you do your research on the expenses or have a set amount each person will be responsible for before you ask them to be a part of your team. This way everyone who comes on board knows your taste, what their expenses are and what is expected of them. You can also create a payment plan for them, it helps.
Secondly, you can find ways to subsidize some of the expenses for the team by taking care of makeup, hair or even jewelry. Think about it, you need to sacrifice something little for them because they are giving you their time, paying for travel and sometimes hotels to come celebrate with you.
Thirdly consider 'known' family/relatives, close friends, friends, before acquaintances, these are commitments that are not for the faint at heart lol and it's better to have people who you have something in common with. I know some of you may disagree, as you should, but you can't go wrong with 'known' family, no matter how bad they are, because if your relationship gets messed up after the wedding, blood is blood. But please do what is best for you!
Now as bridesmaid/groomsmen when the bride/groom asks and explains your responsibilities and expenses, think about it before you commit. Consider their taste, your finances, your location, your relationship with them and if you cannot at the time it's ok to say no, that doesn’t make you a bad friend. Some couples will help out if it's within their means or they can’t see their day being awesome without you by their side. Nevertheless, life happens and you don't get the time off, or something comes up beyond your control, as sad as it is let them know in advance so they can quickly work out the kinks. However, don’t say yes and two weeks before the wedding tell them you cannot because you couldn’t come up with the money, the bride is too demanding, you don’t like the stylist/MUA or another person pissed you off. Please, I need you to rethink for a minute because that is unfair, disrespectful and makes you a bad friend since you agreed to the bride/groom's wishes initially. SIDE NOTE, ITS NOT YOUR WEDDING! and it’s just one day so let your friends have their day and every demand that comes with it.
I love weddings, they are amazing and fun and, everyone should experience it if they have the means but they can also end friendships and tear apart relationships because of miscommunication, financial barriers, and responsibilities the party was not privy to. For eg: there is no manual that says maid of honors should host or pay for bachelorettes or bridal showers, or best men should host the bachelor party, as a matter of fact, it is a team effort with the maid of honor/best man organizing it, most likely they know the couple best. Please 'Read/Ask' for the 'wedding fine prints' before you say yes to being in any wedding party because you are in for the long haul!!
DISCLAIMER: It’s your day, your choice, this is just my ✌🏾cents from experience and being a boss planner :)
-The Boss Planner